Let’s face it, parents have a tough job these days. Parenting is not for the faint of heart, but with determination and love, it can be a very rewarding part of life.
Although we often feel like we don’t know what we’re doing or how to parent well, the Bible certainly has some things to say about what our attitude should be and how we should treat our children.
Bible Verses for Parents:
These are the verses I have collected that I think are the most crucial to get right as parents. Some have to do with our attitude and others have to do with loving and training our children. I hope these will be a blessing to you.
Attitude towards our children –
Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate. Psalms 127:3-5
We need to view our children as a gift and blessing from God. There are certainly days that they don’t feel like they bless us, but we need to stand on the truth that God intends them as a blessing. If we are having a bad day with our children and we say this verse out loud, our attitude and focus should change the way we treat them that day.
For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them. Psalms 139:13-16
Here is another great set of verses explaining how important our children are. God spent time thinking through exactly how he wanted to form this little human and we need to keep that as our focus. Even though their personality might be abrasive at times or they might do things exactly the opposite of what we want, we need to remember that God created them and gave us the job of training them into what He wants them to become.
We need to discern whether they need more training from us or if we need to accept them for who they are and work with them to help them grow into responsible adults.
How we should act:
So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will care for itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. Matthew 6:34
As parents we often worry about a ton of concerns each day. This verse reminds us not to worry. Easier said than done, but if God said it, it must be possible. Trust God that He knows what He is doing in your life and turn all your concerns back to Him. This might have to be done every 5 minutes if that’s what it takes to get rid of worry.
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. Philippians 4:6
Again, fear and anxiety can creep into our day very easily. Our job as parents is to acknowledge them and then turn to God in prayer, thank Him for what He’s doing, and leave it with Him.
Your children will remember how you treated them, not whether you worried about them.
Train up a child in the way he should go; Even when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6
I’ll admit that when my children were little, this verse took a lot of faith to believe. Now most of them are grown and I just sit in amazement at the awesome people they have become. I have 4 children and their attitude and actions bless me so much each day. They have turned into amazing adults and I wonder who in the world raised these people.
Of course, this is no guarantee. Sometimes life events, friends they choose, or wrong attitudes change our kids into people we don’t want them to be. This verse doesn’t give an age of when your child will come back to their training, but it does tell us what to do. We have to stand on the fact that we have trained, or are training, them well and that God will come through on this promise.
And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. Deuteronomy 6:6-7
Do you see the pattern here? Talk to your children. Train your children. Be present with your children at all times. They will catch your attitude and feel whether you love them or not. Love your children well. Find out what their love language is and then spend time with them and love them well as you walk and talk with them every day.
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4
Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. Colossians 3:21
These two verses go together and give us more insight into how we should treat our children. I think this is important for fathers and mothers alike. Will your children sometimes be angry with you? Yes, they certainly will, but in most cases that should be because they were disciplined.
If your children are always angry with you, often times this is because they don’t feel loved. This is where the Love Language book (or the Love Languages of Children) comes in. Read it. Become familiar with love languages and implement them in every relationship in your life.
Your children might still be angry, but at least they will know that you are loving them well. If you consistently love them well over time, they should soften and be willing to have a great relationship with you.
Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart. Proverbs 29:17 another version says “Correct your son, and he will give you comfort; He will also delight your soul.”
Discipline your son while there is hope, And do not desire his death. Proverbs 19:18
In this age of wanting to be friends with our children instead of parents, this verse is very reassuring. It’s OK to discipline your children! It’s OK to make it inconvenient for them to disobey you. God disciplines us and we, in turn, need to discipline our children. The promise in this verse is that we will get rest and delight. Do the hard work of disciplining your children and you will reap the reward in the end.
How our children should act:
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” Ephesians 6:1-3
Although children don’t want to hear these verses, they are smart to heed them because their life will be easier. If they have this attitude of honoring, God will bless them and help them in their life. Some children learn this earlier than others, but it’s an important attitude to have all throughout life.
For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them. Ephesians 2:10
Children need to understand that God created them and that He plans good things for them. When they have a vision for their lives that God is for them and that He has amazing things in store for them, the daily perspective changes. They can see that their life is more than just today. As kids it’s easy to think that today is all there is. When they understand the big picture of life, they can live more peacefully each day waiting to see God unfolding a great path before them.
I hope these verses and my comments have been helpful to you. You might also enjoy the verses I chose for couples here – 7 Vital Bible Verses Couples Need to Master for a Great Relationship